Shana Shares

Whether you have come here angry or at ease by the title of this blog post, I want to set the record straight by initially stating that this blog is not about me being polygamous or saying we should all be polygamous. However, I had the opportunity to speak with someone who is polygamous and is also a very safe person who I believe has something to teach us about sex and love that can even add value to monogamous relationships. This blog will offer us a rather triggering but

If you would have asked me what my word for this year was back in January, I would have told you "ME" or "Me and God" and while that may have been true as most of my 2024 was spent learning how to set boundaries, stopping my deadly people pleasing habits, and following my intuition, God had something much BIGGER and BETTER in mind. I don't owe anyone any explanation about my word for this year or any insight into my personal decisions, however; as a healer and leader hoping t

Communication is the only way we coexist and is imperative for maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships of all kinds. John Gottman, a couple's therapist, conducted research and found that certain communication patterns found in couples lead to divorce or a breakup. He called these the Four Horsemen. While it is important to address these destructive communication patterns, it is just as important to talk about healthier replacements. Criticism Criticism can be describ

Every Sunday, my friend Madisyn and I see one another and we usually go to the beach. One of the first times we did this was on a day in late August. The sun was blazing but there was a wonderful breeze. It was perfect. We both feel so open hearted whenever we’re at the beach. I remember on this particular day we got in the water and began our dive into deep and meaningful conversation. This time the topic of conversation was on our futures in business. In the middle of bra

One day in December, I met my coach at the beach for a magical session. She read my journals and I told her how I began dating a man and feeling things I hadn’t felt since my relationship five years ago. All of a sudden, I was met with overwhelming fears and paralyzing anxiety from my former on again off again relationship. Over the years, I developed the belief that relationships for me would always turn into bitterness. I wrote this fear along with other past beliefs I

I ask myself, "Why are you so afraid of love?" But I'm not afraid of love. I'm afraid of the heartbreak that always seems to follow. The loss. The yearning for closure I will never get. The vulnerability. The launching into the unknown. However, it's the same heartbreak that awakens my strength. That ignites a fire in me. A fire built on the passion of love that gets transformed into creativity and wild ambition. Then I ask myself, "Why do you run from love to avoid a heartbr

I’ve had writer’s block for months. It is one of the most frustrating things as a writer because when I am writing, I feel whole and connected to myself. What is writer’s block? I see it as being emotionally, mentally, and even spiritually blocked and I don’t believe you even have to be a writer to experience it. For my writing is not the only thing that has been blocked for the past months. It is deeper than that. It’s like I am blocked from feeling connected to myself. I sp